Thursday, September 15, 2016

Muhammad Haiqal Mohd Zulkarnain


August 14, 2016 (Sunday):
Muhammad Haiqal Mohd Zulkarnain selamat dilahirkan at approximately 3.50pm---3.0kg---cesarean section at Hospital Selayang.

Assalamualaikum dunia! 

Thursday, March 10, 2016

This is Parenting

I read this article and air mata bergenang laju jee turun.

MUST READ FOR ALL MOTHERS:

This is Parenting

The first years of parenting knocked me on my a**.

I had postpartum depression twice, and our son was a colicky baby.
As an introvert who values my freedom and space, it took me a few years to truly acclimate to parenthood. Then, just as we were starting to get into a groove, we added a second child to the mix. For many months after our daughter’s birth, I was triage parenting—constantly trying to figure out which child needed me the most while the other one cried.
More than anything else, early parenting felt like chaos.
But now, we’re crawling out of the trenches. And I’m mourning how fast it’s going. I want to freeze time a bit. I want to savor these days. These days of watching our son learn to love books, or sit at the dining room table coloring, or practice his Tae Kwon Do routine to loud techno music, darting around the living room. And our daughter, who only has a few short years left before kindergarten squeezes the baby out of her, before her spine straightens, and her sing-song preschooler voice fades.
Time is slipping away. And as the chaos fades into something more like fullness, I am seeing how damned sacred it all is.
To watch someone come into the world, to know them before you even know their name. To attend to their cries, their hunger, their fear. To feed them. To bathe and change them, to witness them in all their vulnerability, all their naked humanity. To accept them as you’ve probably never accepted anyone before. To watch your own brain rewire, connecting you to a chain of parents throughout time, turning you both stronger and more vulnerable at the same time.
To feel the muscles of your heart stretch and hum and grow so you can love in a way that is different than any other love. To use that strong heart to forgive them when they frustrate you, when they test your limits over and over again.
And even more, to forgive yourself when you’re empty on patience, when you think maybe I’m just not cut out for this whole parenting thing.
Underneath all the trappings of life, the costumes we wear, the possessions we surround ourselves with, the titles we hold— beneath it all we are human creatures who breathe and shit and love and fear and die. In the same way that watching someone leave their body is sacred—so is watching someone live. Watching them enter the world, grow, shedding their skin over and over again, stepping into new versions of themselves, with or without grace. To discover that when someone arrives in the world, they are already exactly who they are meant to be.
It’s hard and hilarious and humbling.
And it’s sacred.
Not in the Enjoy every moment you are so very blessed way. Not in the Isn’t it all just so magical? way. But in the way you can go from ohmygod if somebody says mommy one more time I’m going to Van Gogh my ears to a few hours later as you watch their sweet moon faces sleep and you hear yourself whisper aren’t I the luckiest person in the world?
Parenting rearranges us, offers us new lenses to see the world, lenses we were born with but that got shattered or lost over the decades: like when my son races outside to smash ice with his boots, and I slow down enough to join him, finding pleasure in that sound that ice makes as it begins to surrender beneath our feet. Or how ecstatic my daughter is when I return from the grocery store, lugging her favorite fruits.
Our kids remind us to squint and see the world with fresh eyes; sometimes it’s amazing and sometimes we are just too damned tired and rushed to take it all in.
Parenting is to know all the previous versions of someone, to hold them inside your mind as they grow, as they unfold. It’s slowly learning to let go on the outside as their lives begin to take shape, separate from your own, while on the inside, in your strong, tender parent-heart, you never let go at all.

Thursday, February 25, 2016

Random February 2016

1. Dah lama tak update blog. Bukanlah busy bebenor cuma malas nak menulis.

2. But I love my blog and I want to read all of this again when i'm 10 -20 years older kalau umur panjang. Mesti best kan reminisce.

3. 2016 has been really great to me, Surfacing, Hamza and our little family. Banyak open doors/ opportunity. Alhamdulillah satu demi satu dimudahkan dan dilorongkan jalannya. Ini ke namanya rezeki baby H2? Ewah code nama macam Star Wars pulak...

4. Talking bout baby H2, I'm already week 14. All the nausea, muntah, loya, angin dah makin berkurangan, Alhamdulillah. I think I should write more often. Nanti kesian pulak takda update pasal dia sedangkan abangnya kemain lagi rajin menulis.

5. Talking about Hamza, he is progressing Alhamdulillah. Dia dah mula verbal tapi limited like baru 30-40 words and 90% english. But hey I'm not complaining! Jadilah dari takda langsung kan! He is such a happy kiddo and his behaviour getting better. This cheeky gizmo pandai gila cari attention dari ummi abah dia termasuk teacher-teacher dia because he lovesss body contact. Suka peluk kiss orang. manalaaaa orang nak marah kan.

5. Currently hamza still EIP di Tim Athfaal- full day monday-friday, EIP 2 hours/week di Permata Kurnia dan OT di HUKM twice a month.

6. I'm still working at ANGKASA. Dah 4 tahun dahhh magaddd pecah rekod paling lama keja kat sini. But I guess i'm gonna stay here for a while.

7. Not gonna further study anytime soon.

8. I just booked confinement lady untuk jaga fullday 8.00am-5.00pm for 14 days.  Mahal juga la untuk aku yang kedekut ini. Tapi takpalah aku beranak spital selayang je tak payah bayar apa.
So apa salahnya invest sikit untuk kesihatan badanku.
cukupla pantang sendiri masa first tu, seriously effectnya 6-7 bulan lepas beranak
badan sakit-sakit and macam-macam lagi datang.
NOT GOING TO HAPPEN AGAIN.

9. Probably will take 1 month extra unpaid leave lepas pantang sebab 2 bulan tak cukup sebenarnya baby kecikkk je lagi.

10. Kesian pulak hamza birthday dia kan 31 ogos sedangkan due date aku 19 ogos. (Please baby H2 kita keluar ikut term ye sayang. Jangan buat ummi terperanjat keluar awal-awal..hehehe)
Aku and surfacing kemainla plan nak buat birthday party Star Wars theme "May the 4th be with you" gitu for hamza 4th birthday but hey Allah has better plan. Takpa kalau ada duit lebih sikit kita buat la kita-kita je sebulan sebelum birthday Hamza ye (which is after raya)

11. Surfacing currently working on his first Feature Film. Can't reveal much but I AM SO PROUD OF YOU MY DEAR SURFACING! Finally masanya telah tibaaaa (nyanyi macam rakan muda)

12. I'm so unfashionable I basically wear the same jubah/ dress weekly because I only have 5 jubah and 2 baju kurung pergi kerja for the past 2 years. Sheeshh. I rather spend RM49 for T-shirt hamza yang lawa dekat H&M  dari RM39 cheap jubah kat carrefour. What the hell is wrong with us, mothers???

13. AKU MALAS MASAK and makan luar everyday so no update on recipe whatsoever. Poor my husband.

eh banyak dah tu, bye.

Friday, January 29, 2016

The First Three Years



MY DEAR MUHAMMAD HAMZA MOHD ZULKARNAIN
For the day, you were born
I was cut open
For the hideous scar
The bloated belly
The swollen and aching joints
The long and sleepless night
For the first time, I’ve seen your face
With the wires and tubes
For being so tiny and helpless
For the first time, you opened your eyes
I fell in love
For the lovely smile
The infectious laugh
The smiling eyes
You have grown so much
The tiny hands wrapped around my neck
For the endless kiss
The small hugs
The screaming and crying
The messy lunch
For the secret code
The special bond
I can see the love from your beautiful eyes
You are the greatest gift from the Almighty
My little Angel from Heaven
You are my son, my love, and my joy
I love you forever and far beyond eternity.

P/S: Yes, we are expecting :)



Monday, August 10, 2015

HAMZA EARLY INTERVENTION PROGRAM - TIM ATHFAAL





























Hamza dah start sekolah effective July, 2015
Sekolah yang dipilih - TIM ATHFAAL
Kelas ANIS (Anak Istimewa) - Early Intervention Program (EIP)
ada lebih kurang 40 student Autism, ADD, ADHD

First day sekolah memang menangis
tapi lepas tu ok je
hantar je nangis
but dekat sekolah teacher kata dia boleh ikut arahan and tak banyak karenah
terus pandai makan sendiri sampai teacher tolong suap pun dia tak bagi

Why TIM-ATHFAAL?
Aku ada terbaca review dari blog mommy yang pernah hantar
perkembangan positif pada anak
dari non-verbal dah boleh bercakap
sebelum ni dikenali sebagai Tadika Indah Murni and ada a few student Autism
Pastu banyak demand so dorang bukak cawangan baru
kelas ada kategori: ANIS, PRESCHOOL, PLAYSCHOOL and NURSERY










































TIM-ATHFAAL takda specific treatment macam ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis)
But they focus pada self help, social skills, fine motor skills
The best part ada include speech therapy and occupational therapy
Selain tu ada music therapy, autism movement therapy, Brain Gym
Added Value: Islamic based therapy
Dekat sekolah ada Ustaz yang akan ajar doa bila morning assembly
ada group session and one to one
ada jugak water therapy tapi tu additional fee so tengah fikir-fikir lagi





















aku enrolled Hamza untuk Full day Program from 8.30am - 3.30pm
Tapi 7.30 dah hantar dia pergi sekolah sebab sadly we're both working slaves
Pergi abah dia hantar pasal abah dia masuk kerja pukul 9am
Balik ummi ambik pasal ummi keluar office 5.00pm
Sebab nusery dah penuh , school akan hantar hamza ke transit nursery yang selang 1 blok
transit nursery pun Alhamdullillah so far so good
owner sangat baik dan jagaan yang baik so far (Bondamama branch)
will talk about transit nursery in separate post

Hamza ada dapat communication book
basically teacher akan tulis daily activity
mostly apa task yang hamza buat what he can and can't do yet
Teacher Hamza nama dia teacher Suhaila
MasyaAllah baik dan friendly
Teacher Su pun ada anak special needs so she knows exactly what she's doing























Apa-apa pun aku nak say whole lotta THANKS WITH HUGSSS AND LOVEE
to TEEFA yang share pasal TIM-ATHFAAL ni
she's the one yang inform pasal TIM-ATHFAAL dah buka kat wangsa maju
Dia siap pergi Open Day
So aku terus macam what the heck just go check it out
sebab aku sebenarnya macam dah putus asa bila check harga EIP kat Malaysia
ni semua RIBU-RIBAN untuk 3 jam sehari kalau untuk daily program
Sesuailah sebab memang 1-1 program and you have your own therapist
Aku mula-mula pun fikir nak register NASOM je but hesitated
sebab jauh dari perjalanan kitorang lakibini nak pegi keja

So bila pergi borak dengan Teacher Su...pastu jumpa Manager dia Ms Rushd
terus jatuh cinta and the rest is history.
I can see Hamza is happier than ever!

Pasal fee don't worry...definitely will not leave you broke
aku sangat BERTUAH sebab company fully covered bulan-bulan yuran
untuk any rehabilitation program for Hamza sebab dia ada OKU card
Aku bersyukur sangat ada employer yang prihatin kepada anak-anak OKU
By right aku boleh pergi mana-mana EIP Mahal gila tu sebab fully covered - no limit
tapi aku sendiri tak mampu nak dahulukan duit dulu...hahaha
so yeah takpa, so far I am confident with TIM -ATHFAAL
InsyaAllah, kita tengok dalam 6 months macam mana






















Seronok naik kereta tapi bila sampai simpang wangsa maju menangissss
and yeah hamza telah dibotakkan atas sebab-sebab tak dapat dielakkan
will story later if I have time
ummi SEDIH!

Next aku akan cerita improvement Hamza sejak sekolah
mungkin sikit tapi besar maknanya pada aku

Hamza first day of school recorded
walaupun kena bangun 6.30 pagi tapi excited dia tuuuuu

video



Monday, July 13, 2015

Cookin' Up Pt 10 - Shepherd/ Cottage Pie


whoaaaa lama gila tak update blog!
dari hari ke hari aku nak update tapi takde mood langsung.
Banyak sangat benda hamza dah masuk sekolah, hamza punya kelas OT
Tapi takpa later lah
kita dah hari-hari terakhir Ramadan
Alhamdulillah sempat merasa Ramadan tahun ni.
Raya biasa-biasa je
open house pun tak buat

Anywhoo since nak raya ni lemme share a very simple recipe, tak banyak bahan
Kalau nak menambat hati orang datang beraya yang sukakan western inilahhh resepinya..cewahh
sedap dia macam WOW!
Again , recipe from Foodwishes


SHEPHERD PIE/ COTTAGE PIE

Layer bawah (Meat Filling)
400/500gm minced mutton atau minced beef
sauted  1 cube butter with 1 onion(bawang holland) dah potong dadu dan 3 ulas garlic hiris nipis
letak olive oil sikit
brownkan minced meat 
dah brown masukkan 1/4 tepung 

letak dash of blackpepper, rosemary, paprika/ chilli flakes, cinnamon
masukkan 1 tsp garam
masukkan tomato ketchup
masukkan chicken broth (kalau takda letak je stok ayam and air)
(jangan banyak air just nice untuk pekatkan)
kalau suka masukkan frozen peas and carrots (aku skip)
kacau sampai pekat

Layer atas (Mashed Potato Filling)
Rebus 5-7 ketul kentang (aku suka guna holland potato) dengan garam
dah lembut sila drain
MASHED dengan 1 cube butter, 1tsp salt, cayenne, cream cheese, cheddar cheese
letakkan 1 egg yolk yang dah beat dengan sedikit susu
mashed sampai semua blend elok and jangan lembik sangat

Letak Meat layer dalam pan
scoop potato pakai scoop ice-cream susun atas meat layer

pastu ratakan dan criss cross kan dengan garfu

tabur apa-apa cheese yang suka sebagai topping
taknak pun takpa sebab dah ada cheese
dalam potato

Baked 30 min - 250c

video


Kos nak buat dalam 25 hengget boleh dapat 6 portion cut besar
atau 8 portion cut sederhana
eh oklahh tu kalau kat kedai 1 portion sederhana dah 12 hengget

SIAP!
SEDAP ...
surfacing makan je dah habis 3/4 tray sekian.




Aku cuti from 15 -27 JULAI Wohooooooo
SELAMAT HARI RAYA!

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Special


Some of my close friends already knew this
My son, Muhammad Hamza just diagnosed with Autism (Mild-Moderate)
from NASOM and Child Development Centre (CDC), HUKM
We are currently searching for the best therapy and early intervention program
for Hamza (that will not bankrupt us because autism is expensive) 

So apa reaction aku masa child psychologist bagitau result assessment dia?
I felt relieved.
seriously lega. 
Because I've been observing Hamza since he's 15 months.
I can't denied the fact that he's a late bloomer
at 16 months dah bawak dia buat hearing test and Alhamdulillah normal.
So I've waited until 20 months (adjusted age) to hear his first word
There's none.

So I wait no more and started calling Nasom and CDC buat appointment
untuk assessment.
bawak jugak speech therapy assessment and the SLP pun expressed her concerned.
memang ada traits autism tu.

At first , I made myself believe it probably ADHD 
Because he's really hyper, short attention span etc
But from time to time, the traits become more obvious
from the hand flapping, stimming, less eye contact and tip toeing.

I started searching for more articles about Autism
watch more youtube videos on the treatment
join FB "Austime Malaysia, "Kelab anak Autisme"  and more

So yes, 
when I heard the diagnosis, I felt relieved.
I got more assurance from Child Development Centre (CDC) HUKM
Time wasted no more and this is the best age to get the help he needed.
Now I have the answers, I just have ask more questions.



Did I cry?
Yes, loads.
But I cried because I feel like I'm not doing good enough for Hamza, yet.
He is my son and I still look at him the same just like before the diagnosis.
He is the same person.
He just need more support, love and attention from us.

I didn't share his condition on other social media because I don't want sympathy or likes
I just want your Doa.
However, I will blog more about  our journey, Insya'Allah
I will only blog to share info for future special supermom and superdad out there.
I'm still learning and this is just the beginning of our wonderful journey.
#hamzavsautism